This is an awesome article:

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/01/how-to-love-an-empath/

I was told all my life that I “needed to grow a thick skin” that I was “too sensitive,” that I was “too emotional,” as if it were a bad thing I needed to eradicate from my life. Like the woman in the article, I tried everything to avoid feeling, to tamp out the heightened emotions that could render me giddy or tearful or terrified at a moment’s notice during social interactions and relationship trials. All to no avail.

It wasn’t until I became an adult and had a conversation with a musician friend of mine that I learned it wasn’t necessarily such an evil.

Because in my line of work, the capacity for emotion is an amazing gift. To be a good musician, I must feel, 100%, the joy, anguish, fear, comfort, tension, and release that we human beings are capable of. Because without those things, the music we make becomes lifeless and loses all ability to touch people’s souls. To be a musician means to feel.

Sure, it makes dealing with day-to-day life more hard than I’d care to admit. Unbelievably hard, sometimes.

But it’s all in how you look at it.

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3 thoughts on “Empathy

  1. This is why I believe we are so close, because when you say how sorry you are or how happy you are I know you mean it, from your soul. I feel the same way and it does make life terribly difficult at times, but you are a wonderful person because of who you are.

    1. Thank you. You too! 🙂 I saw a post on Facebook the other day that we don’t “make” friends — we recognize them. I think it’s the same thing with finding those people who understand us best — as long as we just be who we’re supposed to be — we’ll find the ones that mesh. 🙂

  2. interesting article. I will share. very true. So many stuff their feelings. I had a lady tell me she doesn’t want to cry in front of people because it makes her look weak, and makes others feel bad. hmmmm, I can see how see was brought up.

    Musicians are unique as in artists. They can feel with their music and those who listen can relate.

    Honor others feelings—- right on;) “don’t feel sad, bad, angry, etc” is not honoring someone else’s feelings.

    thanks for sharing. You truly are a gifted writer.

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